This is a rumination borne of several recent posts and (for me) almost-posts.
Do you ever have those? Those situations where you want to post something, but hold off for whatever reason? You know, the "close call"?
I have had a couple in the past few days. I know I'm not the only one- at least one or two of my real life friends have blogs, and I know they have restrained themselves from writing what's "really going on" for fear of hurt feelings or other situations like that.
I'm personally struggling with this sort of situation. I've always intended my blog to be a way to connect with the gaming community, and I work hard to avoid excluding someone because of that. But I also have a strong sense of ownership- it's MY blog, and I'll talk about what *I* want to. If someone doesn't like it, they don't have to read it.
(At least, that's what my 10 year old self argues any time I want to post something that might not go over well.)
That sort of attitude doesn't solve the problem, but it certainly gives you a lot of freedom.
I have to ask myself if I WANT freedom, or if I want the community I am working so hard to build. If my answer is community, then certain things I might post will just not go up. As I said, I'm not the only one with these feelings.
GMs probably experience a little of this- I can imagine it can be hard to dissect a game gone awry online if any of their players read blogs. It can be tough to talk about preparations, villains, problems or anything "negative" if your players blog or read them frequently.
If you can't say the things that are on your mind because you're worried about upsetting someone, where do you turn? Where do you let off your steam, and let out your frustrations?
What is your safe place?